Another Dog: Venting

Please don’t tell me to get another dog, that doing so will help. Even if I didn’t have the four other dogs that wouldn’t be an option.

If you lost a spouse, a sibling, a child would it be ok for me to tell you to get another? And yes, losing a dog is the same thing. I still think about him, dream about him, wait for his single bark because he woke up from a nap alone, wait to see his excited dance at meal time. Those things won’t ever go away; I’m starting to cry even as I sit here writing this.

In trying to be kind sometimes the words we choose can cause more pain than comfort.

Mr B

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7 thoughts on “Another Dog: Venting

  1. Awwww….. Agree that getting a dog (or pretty much anything else) is not a solution for how you feel. Grief has to be gone through, there is no escaping it or getting around it. You must go through. Two things that happened when I was grieving Max. I went to the grocery store in my pajamas (i didn’t realize i still had my pj’s on) and broke down in a random aisle. Also, I got pulled over while driving for going too slow because i was singing a sad song and bawling. The poor cop had no clue what he was getting into to. My point is… you might be alone in your current grief, but you are not alone in the understanding of where you are.

  2. Mary Lauer

    I am so sorry that people’s attempts to be helpful/consoling hurt you. Of course there is no replacing Mr. B! He was one of a kind, just like each of our fur babies. My condolences.

  3. I had a dog from the time she was 4 months old until she was 17 1/2 years old. When she passed away I really didn’t know if I was going to make it, even now almost 9 years later I still get teary eyed thinking about her. I had this exact same conversation with people so many times it got to the point I started unintentionally being rude to people about it when they suggested another dog was the answer. I also gave them the same response. She was my child, if someone else lost a 2 legged child I would never go suggest to them to get another one to replace the one that was lost. I swore I’d never own another dog after her because I couldn’t go through the pain again and I always thought I’d feel guilty, like I was cheating on her. Eventually I learned that getting other dogs is not cheating because they could never replace that hole she left, but closing myself off from ever having another one wasn’t helping either. So here I am now with almost 9 years later with 3 dogs, who I love dearly, they give my life lots of joy but they could never take her place.

  4. Roberta

    Grieving is such a personal thing, sometimes it never ends it just gets quieter, I lost my boy a little over 2 years ago, he had just turned 5, I still miss him & think of him a lot, at the time the mere thought of getting another dog pained me to even consider…….. I knew if the time were to ever come, that dog would find me, about a year ago Capone found me, It still has not changed the heart ache I still feel for the loss of my Max. I have to 15 year old females that I know that someday will come… with the joy & love a dog brings it also brings such pain….

  5. Jacque

    I am not saying get another dog to replace your sweet baby that is now running free, but I once read somewhere that when they do move on they would like for you to give another furbaby a chance at a beautiful home they once had with you! There’s no replacing it’s sharing your time your home and your love with another who needs a home!

  6. I think people usually mean well but they don’t always say the right thing or understand how to respond to grief. It’s personal. It’s raw. And it takes time.

  7. I’m so sorry! 😦 Sweet Mr. B, I hope his spirit brings you some peace. {{hugs}}

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